tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1383562954178786919.post1952290716928429348..comments2024-02-15T01:19:18.024-08:00Comments on Ananya Tales: Is Motherhood a Choice?Ananyahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05156727486680867354noreply@blogger.comBlogger44125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1383562954178786919.post-29789159354251978662014-09-17T04:33:07.831-07:002014-09-17T04:33:07.831-07:00Thank you Siddarth, what's the point of the co...Thank you Siddarth, what's the point of the comment please?<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1383562954178786919.post-2192542965458815462014-09-17T04:28:11.207-07:002014-09-17T04:28:11.207-07:00My apologies Mukthika, I spelt your name incorrect...My apologies Mukthika, I spelt your name incorrectly.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1383562954178786919.post-72768621974163825302014-09-17T04:27:12.467-07:002014-09-17T04:27:12.467-07:00Dear Muthika
How does one answer this question, I...Dear Muthika<br /><br />How does one answer this question, I fear I maybe "an Anamika"Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1383562954178786919.post-64365242702034820342014-09-17T04:12:59.318-07:002014-09-17T04:12:59.318-07:00Dear Anamika
I really hope you read this. I too am...Dear Anamika<br />I really hope you read this. I too am a young woman who has no desire or intention to ever have a child.<br />Yes i now the cold looks, the snide remarks being told that you are selfish or that your life will be lonely.I agree with you whole heartedly that motherhood is a choice, I too adore kids but others' kids.<br />This is not an easy decision to give a voice to as I have noticed that most people just expect you to want to start a family...<br />Anamika I hope this helps you and I hope your husband can decide what he will be happy with and not give in to family pressure and lose his temper over this. <br />Take care and God Bless you...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1383562954178786919.post-20035895198036495772014-08-29T03:40:26.437-07:002014-08-29T03:40:26.437-07:00Personal choices should never be up for debate, wi...Personal choices should never be up for debate, within family or outside. But yes if discussion is on I say, the general feeling about such decisions is that they are hell bent on being family oriented also. No matter how personal more than one is affected through this..<br /><br /><a href="http://subzeroricha.com/" rel="nofollow"> Richa</a>Richa Singhhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18147592329627851095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1383562954178786919.post-67815231894882106912014-08-19T13:02:02.639-07:002014-08-19T13:02:02.639-07:00Can you please choose to put in your perspective?
...Can you please choose to put in your perspective?<br />The metaphors don't quite convey an opinion...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04804396793756259881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1383562954178786919.post-19797989654391639662014-08-19T12:56:42.672-07:002014-08-19T12:56:42.672-07:00A very interesting perspective. Thanks Joanne.. :)...A very interesting perspective. Thanks Joanne.. :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04804396793756259881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1383562954178786919.post-46871875770222474392014-08-19T12:54:25.469-07:002014-08-19T12:54:25.469-07:00So is marriage just to have kids? Is that what you...So is marriage just to have kids? Is that what you are saying?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04804396793756259881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1383562954178786919.post-45586985619828042892014-08-19T12:53:12.571-07:002014-08-19T12:53:12.571-07:00I doubt whether thinking about whether to have a c...I doubt whether thinking about whether to have a child will do anything to curb India's population. What's needed in the short term is more awareness about sexual health, better availability and accessibility of contraception and better information spreading about issues regarding pregnancy.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04804396793756259881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1383562954178786919.post-50141035794506184552014-08-19T05:03:32.095-07:002014-08-19T05:03:32.095-07:00These are personal choices. Yet as the husband hin...These are personal choices. Yet as the husband hinted, one could find a partner who also believes in not having children instead of breaking it as a bombshell to an 'average' person who believes that it is natural to expect to have children after marriage..Rajeev Moothedathhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13050570756706357953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1383562954178786919.post-31659478435678471532014-08-19T00:48:42.340-07:002014-08-19T00:48:42.340-07:00Thank you for sharing this Ananya.
I may be wrong...Thank you for sharing this Ananya. <br />I may be wrong and have no say in this. But, I wish, I really did, that I could read her husband's thoughts too. Anamika, did you really sit with your husband asking him what he really wanted?<br />It's perfectly fine to not have a child and a happy marriage has nothing to do with it. But the words "Why didn't you say me before* hit me. Being a mother is the toughest and the most important job. And, if you're not ready, you shouldn't give in to any of pressures to bring the child in this world.<br />However, I was just a little concerned about the husband. What if he wants and has always looked forward to having a child? It has to be a mutual agreement for I believe one alone isn't a parent, a couple together is. Best Wishes! :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1383562954178786919.post-21318578807182416362014-08-19T00:19:00.799-07:002014-08-19T00:19:00.799-07:00Anamika, this is to you. I am a woman, married for...Anamika, this is to you. I am a woman, married for nearly four years and I don't want to have children. Atleast not now. Just remember one thing dear. If you are bringing a child you are bringing in a soul. If you are half heartened about it you might end up just the rudimentary 100% or less. You might fall prey to frustrations of being a mother. You won't be true to your part, your child. The innocent soul doesn't deserve even an ounce of neglect. So, don't be a mother till you are ready for it. if you are not ready your entire life then do not be a mother. The world will criticize no matter what you do so, do not listen to the society.Datta Ghoshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08375800182580592805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1383562954178786919.post-71114696654659839352014-08-18T22:35:26.441-07:002014-08-18T22:35:26.441-07:00It is just sad to see that the right of a person, ...It is just sad to see that the right of a person, especially a woman, is so easily violated only because society believes it to be evil and not ideal. There are thousands of examples of women who choose to be without kids and their husbands are perfectly fine with that. Even Hollywood TV shows and movies have depicted the same. It is sad to know that Indian society has not accepted it and continues to uphold its age-old notions...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04804396793756259881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1383562954178786919.post-66923126254221826972014-08-18T20:14:54.767-07:002014-08-18T20:14:54.767-07:00it is not that the society is of any consequence b...it is not that the society is of any consequence but can a flower choose not to bloom? can a seed choose not to sprout? can a bird choose not to fly? can a fish choose not to swim? can light choose not to shine? i can go on and on.i b arorahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17161315866262492520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1383562954178786919.post-33343462181155373742014-08-18T19:44:20.311-07:002014-08-18T19:44:20.311-07:00It should be a choice but the society thinks other...It should be a choice but the society thinks otherwise. Women are born to be mothers at some point of their life...that's the common notion. Once you decide to sail against the wind, you have to fight hard....it becomes rather easy if the husband understands and supports his wife's wish or choice...otherwise the battle is real tough and almost becomes a traumatic experience ...Maniparnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16109166826609932168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1383562954178786919.post-46848061364121711622014-08-07T07:36:07.634-07:002014-08-07T07:36:07.634-07:00Anamika,
Am I doing something awfully wrong? -- A...Anamika,<br /><br />Am I doing something awfully wrong? -- Absolutely Not<br />Should I have children just because everyone else does? -- Absolutely Not<br />Is childless Marriage a failure ? -- Absolutely Not<br /><br />I really appreciate your you and I would say to you "Its your choice. not wanting to have kids - it is perfectly fine."<br /><br />I really felt good after reading this because now i know i am not the only one. <br /><br />a big thanks to Ananya for posting this.<br /><br />-SD<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1383562954178786919.post-2442755931152582902014-08-05T03:49:44.920-07:002014-08-05T03:49:44.920-07:00I have been married for almost 2 years now but hav...I have been married for almost 2 years now but have known my husband for more than a decade. And the prssure of having a kid is full on. As a woman, my issue of choice is the time..whether I want a child now or later. And my husband feels the same way. I feel what could be more romantic than to create a child with the one person you love most. People say motherhood makes a woman complete. We have friends who were very apprehensive when they found out that they were pregnant. They had not planned a baby for another couple of years and they even thought of not going ahead with the baby. But they did. And their feelings have changed almost overnight..they are so happy. There are so many great examples around me that I cannot imagine of not having a child with my husband. Of course the decision to have a kid is a personal choice. But I feel nobody should deprive themselves from the gift of a child, because I have seen couples who cannot have one going crazy. That's all.NatsBKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12835358606769835037noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1383562954178786919.post-59582492576652554712014-08-04T20:58:14.014-07:002014-08-04T20:58:14.014-07:00Love the new look of the blog!
It's definitely...Love the new look of the blog!<br />It's definitely a personal choice, but I also feel sad for her husband, if he really wants kidsRoshnihttp://www.indianamericanmom.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1383562954178786919.post-38707473177094915462014-08-03T23:44:10.088-07:002014-08-03T23:44:10.088-07:00Kids are not "necessary" ... its perfect...Kids are not "necessary" ... its perfectly ok to choose not to have them. http://e-pinion.blogspot.in/2014/05/to-have-or-not-to-have-children.html?m=1Ashhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10677346098586090998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1383562954178786919.post-47999301142487576172014-08-03T12:18:36.161-07:002014-08-03T12:18:36.161-07:00I have been here after a long time, your blog sure...I have been here after a long time, your blog sure has changed a lot. Great going, you are doing a great job.<br />I was intrigued by the title and I too think that it is a personal choice.<br />Many of my friends have chosen not to have kids and i think its perfectly fine.<br />Good article.<br />Indywriteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07284779782884671443noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1383562954178786919.post-25244837416605226232014-08-02T08:40:27.810-07:002014-08-02T08:40:27.810-07:00The choice to have or not to have a baby is entire...The choice to have or not to have a baby is entirely the couple's decision and the rest should not have a problem with their decision. Procreation is not universal. Agree to Vishal's view that a baby is not a toy to play nor is a tool to flaunt one's fertility. A very good topic.<br /><br />I had blogged on a topic on similar lines. Read http://ideasolsi65.blogspot.in/2014/07/no-questions-please.html<br />kalpana solsihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05459797629127380780noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1383562954178786919.post-81165031085772886912014-08-02T01:22:25.166-07:002014-08-02T01:22:25.166-07:00The sad reality about many Indian families where p...The sad reality about many Indian families where patriarchy rules. Motherhood is a choice that concerns a couple and wonder how other people keep poking their nose in it. As Shalini correctly pointed out, may I add a baby is not a toy to play with. No, she shouldn't feel guilt about the whole thing since it's her body. I have same perspective on abortion-it's a woman's body and why let the whole world rule.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1383562954178786919.post-89351199229631663002014-08-02T00:24:43.691-07:002014-08-02T00:24:43.691-07:00Ananya, nice that you've written about this. A...Ananya, nice that you've written about this. Again,Motherhood is definitely a choice. But it should be discussed between the couple and the decision should be mutual in order to have a happy marriage. Why bring the child to the world when you don't really want to!!!Shalinihttp://somethingiscooking.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1383562954178786919.post-1710411522289625712014-08-01T21:54:06.296-07:002014-08-01T21:54:06.296-07:00Motherhood should definitely be a choice and not a...Motherhood should definitely be a choice and not a topic for others other than the couple to debate upon. We as a society have not evolved to the point where we respect choices that do not reflect the norm. Forget not having babies at all, if you choose to have just one, even then the society scorns at the parents, especially the mother, for being 'selfish' to not give a sibling to the first. So, you see, this is never ending and you cannot add to the next generation just to please other people. That way we'll have a very screwed up generation next!Umahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04717377240212152065noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1383562954178786919.post-23488723199347293512014-08-01T21:47:04.206-07:002014-08-01T21:47:04.206-07:00Ananya and Anamika : first thing I thought about w...Ananya and Anamika : first thing I thought about was the fears Anamika has developed! The origin of this dilemma is not just with having or not having a child. I would urge her to look within to see where this has its roots. The way Anamika talks about everything in her life, I would say she really needs to look within to see what her actual trouble factor is! All of us live through life with so many perceptions of everyone and everything around us. A good question would be WHO am I and what do I really want in my life. How do I want to visualize a reality and make it happen in life!! Dear Anamika : start your journey!Mukthika Anandahttps://www.facebook.com/kalpana.murthynoreply@blogger.com