HATRED

Drug Rehab, Alcohol addiction affects young girls, Indian girl writes about Addiction, troubled chilhood real story


I was 16, my mother would leave for work at 10am and return around 6pm. My grandmother (maternal) was in her late fifties, a silent lady who did household chores during morning, slept afternoon and in evenings, sometimes went for a walk. She was a soft person, unfortunately dominated by her sons. My mother's elder brother  lived with us.

He started his own business by selling half of  my grandmother's gold jewelry. Business clicked in a few days, he started earning and drinking. Days passed by, business declined, his addiction increased. 

Eventually, business went down and incurred substantial losses and then we had to sell my grandmothers remaining jewelry and shut his business down. He would get drunk and create nuisance in neighborhood. At home he used to abuse me saying 'This is not your house, you have no right to stay here', and what not. He had lost his mind and lost my respect as well. 

One night, around 11pm we got a call on our landline from a stranger who informed me  that he found my drunk uncle had fallen on the road. The stranger asked if someone could come to pick my uncle. Who could go? My old granny? My mother? Me?

I explained him our situation, and requested him if he could drop my uncle home. Fortunately, he was a kind enough to do so. This was the first time I had told someone about my family problems. I hated telling anyone about my helplessness. But this was just the beginning, we had to suffer unexplainable torture for 3 years, while he went on and off to drug rehab centers. 

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61 comments:

  1. sometimes situations brings the worse withing !

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  2. I can only imagine how that might of felt like! feeling helpless is indeed one of the worst feelings!
    even i wrote abt hatred today
    http://swathishenoy.blogspot.in/2014/04/h-for-hatred.html?m=1

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  3. That must have been so hard to observe and bear, to watch the destruction happening, especially as a child.

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  4. Awful for you, your mum and your grandma. :(

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  5. Hello, coming over from UBC. My heart goes out to you, to have to had gone thru those experiences at that age.

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  6. I not only ache for you but I empathize. My mom died when I was a teenager and I had a traumatic life. When I hear stories such as your own, I just want to give you a hug and say "I know.....but you will get through it and be stronger for it"

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  7. Alcohol is the worst thing that can happen! I used to pray day and n8 to get a husband who doesn't drink.

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  8. it must have been tough for a teenage girl of 16 to hear abuses, I am happy for the way you handled yourself and turned out great....

    Amritt

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  9. Alcohol can really change people. My first husband was an alcoholic and beat me. He got worse as time went on and finally I escaped. You really don't want outsiders to know, but every once in while you have to get help.

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  10. Addiction in any form is always the most difficult for the family of the addict. You came out more powerful and wise from the whole situation and thats what matters the most.
    www.vevisia.com

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  11. So many family's are destroyed by addictions. Sorry about your early experience with an uncle who should have helped you, but couldn't even help himself.

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  12. Ananya,it was really a very unfortunate situation. Alchohol can destroy a family. It is very sad that you had to face such an ugly period so early in life.

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  13. woah Ananya, your posts leave me stumped. no sugar coating, you speak your mind, you're so painfully truthful.

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  14. Ananya, it must have been terrible for the three of you. Incredibly brave of you to have moved on, though. Positive vibes and hugs to you.

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  15. Addiction is an addition...it can be of anything but they can break up families.

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  16. My heart went out to the little girl who went through this. No child deserves such experiences. Thanks for sharing.

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  17. I can't even imagine what you must have gone through ... such traumatic and abusive experiences leaves one scarred for life but I am glad you have overcome that... And grown into a strong person.

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  18. Having lived with an alcoholic, albeit a short period of time, I can empathize with you. The unknown, day in and day out, is unnerving. You feel as though you are walking on egg shells all the time. Waiting for the next blow out.

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  19. Alcohol merely removes the inhibitions one has.. Many times it shows us for who we truly are.

    Having lived with an alcoholic, I can understand the feelings that you have.

    It takes courage to talk about it

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  20. Kudos for actually coming out with this.. I would very much like to know what happened thereafter too.. Did he change or is it the same old story of bad turned to worse

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  21. I do not know whether you believe in God or not. If later then about 10 years back I was like that. Things became b worst for me. One night I wept for the future of my children and three days later as if miraculously closed doors opened one after another. I got back everything and Someone whispered within me I shall be always with you whenever I feel that you are helpless. Anonya, that night god helped you and your family through that young man.

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  22. Ananya every day you are sharing with us a piece of you. And I admire you for this strength! Love!

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  23. Ananya ....most of times in life we suffer not just because of our own mistakes but others . Careless decision by people ends us in such circumstances . It feels sad to know all these happened with you but again it feels good to know that you have moved on with life and that to so well .

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  24. Having an Uncle addicted to alcohol...there are few who have some real sad stories to tell..

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  25. Oh, that must have been so hard..I can't even imagine what you went through. Keep nurturing this strong spirit that you have, dear Ananya!

    Beauty Interprets, Expresses, Manifests the Eternal

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  26. Oh... that's so awful!!! :( :(

    ~S(t)ri
    Participant|AtoZ Challenge 2014
    Smile, it makes (y)our day!

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  27. and the say women are the cause of all problems! Hah! brave girl you are :)

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  28. That's just awful to have to deal with that at such a young age!

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  29. Sorry you had to deal with all that, Ananya. Hopefully you emerged stronger after this episode.


    ~Shailaja

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  30. Sometimes when bad turns to worse, people do move to alcohol for comfort. Hugs to you for having went through the tough times.

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  31. I really admire your strength, Ananya! While going through the trials and tribulations that life threw your way, must be tough, sharing about them here must not be easy as well! Hugs girl!

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  32. This reminds me of my maternal grandma and the things she went through with my youngest uncle...Nothing one can say can express what one goes through in such situations..
    Random Thoughts Naba

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  33. Some people lose themselves in addiction & squander away everything.Sad state of affairs.

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  34. it is sad how alcohol destroys not only one who is consuming it but also entire families....

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  35. Another strong post, another piece of you in a time capsule.. I would repeat the same- it needs strength..

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  36. I hope writing these episodes may in some way lessen the pain. Hope situation is better now
    good luck

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  37. Its really saddening to hear this ananya. I hope u have overcome the trauma of the childhood and it makes you feel better to write about it. Hugs :-)

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  38. Ananya... this is very sad. Again there are a lot of instances I can count too, some I experienced and some others. But never do these situations leave any one better off..

    Richa

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  39. Brave of u to share dear Ananya. May it all dissolve and it must have by now. Hope time, love and self expression has healed ur scars. Loads of love n hugs.

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  40. Admire your courage, brave lady. Whatever happens happens for the best.

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  41. So sad - what a difficult situation.

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  42. I really feel for you, but at the same time, I am so proud to follow the blog of such a brave person.
    Deb@ http://debioneille.blogspot.com

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  43. Thanks you all for visiting my blog, spending your precious time here and not just commenting but encouraging me.
    Thank you so very much !

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  44. Oh dear, I am glad that you have emerged as a brave person. Childhood like this only moulds kids in a few ways - really nice and brave OR violent OR they become extremely introvert. I know how it is, different situation, but can absolutely relate. Talking about it helps. I am sure you had some really good friends during that phase that helped you in maintaining your sanity. Stay strong.

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    1. Yes thats true Anuradha, I had angels around me in form of friends who kept me grounded !
      Thanks for stopping by!

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  45. I had a difficult childhood but nothing compares to this. Bless you!

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  46. Why can't I comment on your blog. This is the second time its happening :(

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    1. I am so soory Nisha, I am not sure why, will just check !
      Thanks for informing me !

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  47. :/ that didn’t feel so good, first time you told your family problems to a stranger and it felt awkward and today it must have taken courage to share it to the world. Usually this part of life no one would wanna share. Hey why didn’t u tell you dad of the abuse he did to you ? :(

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    1. Its really difficult, Rakesh my parents were separated so...
      Thanks for your concern !

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  48. situations make the person bold ......wish u good luck for future

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  49. Thats awful. Talking/sharing often helps bring closure or at least move on. Take care.

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  50. So, do you let go those memories ? or forgive and forget ? How do you deal with them ? I'm just curious. If you think it's personal, please ignore it. :) I feel it's courageous of you to share the problems you faced :)

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    1. Well, Gaurab its quite difficult for me to answer it here How I dealt with it, because it was along period of time. Honestly, you can't let go of memories, especially bad ones. hmmm Sorry somehow not able to explain it ! Will try abt in a post maybe !

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  51. Feeling helpless is one of the worst moment for a human.
    I can't say i can understand your pain, because i can't...
    I do have a question....
    You helpless now?

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    1. Well, I guess your question is better answered by my other posts ;)

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  52. Tough phase, Ananya. But I'm sure seeing the person that u r now, that you've outgrown such bitter experiences !

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  53. You have had to deal with such a sad situation, Ananya.
    Good that the stranger helped. Sometimes, God sends strangers to help when our own people behave so unreasonably...

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